New year, new adventures and you finally decided to make the leap and enter the Swinger Club  at the corner of your neighborhood. Here is the simple guide to help you in your experience and avoiding it to be the last.

Do’s and Don’ts in a Swinger Club:

Establish rules beforehand. This rule is maybe the most important of all. Before entering the club – especially if you go as a couple – know what are your limits and what you are willing to experience. Between the fantasy and the reality, the gap can be important. Try to set few rules that will keep both of you in your comfort zone, and remember that in a swinger club, you are not forced to do anything. If someone approaches you and you are not interested, a polite “No thank you” or “We are here on our first time, and just want to watch” is usually more than enough. If not, never hesitate to go and talk with the owners of the club which will be happy to help you in those situations.

Ask, always. Before joining someone that interests you, or that couple that you watch since the beginning of the night. No need to prepare a full monologue in your head before, usually a simple “Can we sit with you?” will do the job. The same rule applies in the private parts of the club, don’t enter if you are not invited, never!

Dress to impress. You are not going to the annual dinner of your company. So use a bit of imagination, and don’t hesitate to underline your charms. Guys, a fashion shirt with a jean (if the club allows it) will be enough for the entrance. Be distinctive on your underwear, you can find a whole selection in your favorite internet website. Ladies, this dress that you always thought to open, well it is time to plunge in it and assorts it with high heels. Underwear are often more than optional, but if you opt for some, don’t choose the overcomplicated one to take away!

Be Safe. Well, no need to explain, but always get condoms next to you (usually provided) and hygiene products.

Don’t be shy. Be the one to break the ice in meeting new couples. Except seasoned swingers, there is most surely other shy persons. Being approached in conversation by a new couple is flattering and can make everyone feel at ease.

Don’t be Pushy. No is no, in life in general, but also in Swingers club. Everyone is there to live its own experience, experience which is not necessary yours. If a couple didn’t show interest in you, insisting will get you to look like the creepy couple or lead you to the door behind the gentle arms of the security guy.

Don’t force yourself. Something feel unconfortable? Stop it and say it. You have to remember that you are here to have fun, a privileged moment with your partner. Coming back to the rule number 1 of this article will help you to avoid most of these situations, but feel safe – always – !

Don’t be drunk. Most people like a few drinks at a party, and you can see it as a way to feel bit more social as it may provide a good platform to get to know other swingers. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people. If anyone need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn’t for sure the lifestyle for his/her.

With these rules, you might be prepared to give a try, and see if you want to experience more. Going in a swinger club gives you the opportunity to live out fantasies as a couple without secrecy, but don’t think beforehand that swinging will be the key of your couple problems.

Some do’s and don’ts you want to add? Feel free to comment and share!

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